Sadly, a lot of women operate under the assumption that sex is inherently painful, and that all you can do is grit your teeth and get through it. Nothing could be further from the truth. If sex is ever uncomfortable for you, here are some better ideas for what to do. Please note that, sadly, this is by no means an exhaustive list of all of the potential causes!
The following situations and conditions can contribute to or cause pain during intercourse or other forms of penetration. The first few times you have intercourse or experience vaginal penetration, you may feel a small to moderate amount of pain at the entrance to the vagina. There can be some bleeding or no bleeding at all—both are normal. The reasons for the pain are not always clear, but it is typically temporary. An unstretched hymen vaginal corona has typically been blamed for this pain at first penetration, but new understandings of the hymen suggest otherwise. But not all hymens meet these criteria, and women without substantial hymens can also experience painful penetration.
We respect your privacy. Many women with endometriosis say that intercourse hurts. In fact, about two-thirds of women with endometriosis have sexual dysfunction of some type, according to an analysis published in in Reproductive Sciences. Pain with intercourse, or dyspareunia, is different for every woman. Some women say the pain is mild while others describe it as sharp and stabbing.
There are often few quick fixes for intercourse-related pain; however, consider using lots and lots of water-based lubricant to help improve your intimate experiences. Lay down with a pillow under your hips and have your spouse lay on top of you as you wrap your knee around them. The pillow raises your hips so you are at a more accessible angle for penetration, making sex hurt less. If you're still new to sex, being on top can induce some discomfort but it actually gives you more control so if you are feeling pain, you can adjust quickly.